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[MaryKelly]

As I'm new to the boards, I'm still reading and catching up on all the topic's and posts, so if this question or topic has already been discussed, perhaps someone could point me in the right direction.

My question is What really happens at the moment of death?

I guess you could say I'm searching for what is beyond the phyiscal death, as I already know what occur's during that. This is more of a literal moment of death question, are you consciously aware that you are dieing, can you feel what is happening to your body or is it more of a slipping away? As strange as it may sound do those who die in their sleep know on some level that they are dieing? And what are your opinion's of endorphin's being released in the brain that may reduce the pain if there is any at that moment and cause euphoric feelings associated with vision's and hearing voice's of our loved ones?

Well as you can see I'm full of questions on the topic, I hope these are enough to explain what I mean and hopefully have you respond with your view's and opinion's. Thank you.

[spooksareus]

Hi M.k.,
from what I've gathered from
being around a few people when they died,
and also from what my aunt has seen as a nurse,
the dying experience can be as varying as the
birth experience.
Some are easy and peaceful
and some are painful and hard.
Some go quickly
with a joyous smile, still others hold on to life as
tightly as they can for as long as they can.

As far as the natural coctail that the brain releases
when a person is dying and in pain whether physically
or emotionally...god I hope so.

I believe absolutely that a persons actual loved ones spirit
will come to the death bed and greet them.

Of course that doesn't mean that hallucinations aren't possible
as well. (Be more enjoyable )
Spooks...

[kats_god]

This is a question that I have been wondering myself for a long time now.

[MaryKelly]

Thank you for your replies . First, they let me know that I'm not the only one who's wondered about this, and given me a better perspective on what other's have seen and heard happens. Do either of you wonder if it is a personal thing between ourselves and our creator and perhaps that is why while we have glimpses of the experience from those who've nearly died, we don't know exactly what it is like?

[spooksareus]

Yes M.K., I think it is a very personal experience
between us and "the creator".
I've never seen anything more intimate
than the death process, some things in life are
perhaps as intimate but nothing I've witnessed
or facillitated were more intimate...

[DukeofBoogie]

I think some of it may depend on the manner in wich one dies. What if a death is violent and sudden? Then I don't think we would know what happened at all. Not right away, anyhow.

I too think we are greated by loved ones and angels. But to really know I guess we have to wait till our time comes.

[carlotta]

What really happens at the moment of death?

I think that it's like a great weight is taken off. After all, your spirit is separated from the physical shell. Remember all of those people who've been in comas and remembered floating above their bodies? I don't think there is physical pain anymore, however the mental agonies that we might have been suffering before death may still remain, depending on how ready we are to let them go.

There's always that mention of seeing a bright light, too. That might be the gateway to 'heaven', through which loved ones may come to get us, and through which we have to go to move on.

What happens to you after death depends on who you are and what choices you make then. It'll be a big adjustment, though.

[heavenlee]

I read somewhere that at the moment of death we will have a film of our lives playing in our head.We will see the choices we made and how we affected others.

[spelling]

one rendition that i've heard was that it is a sort of euphoric feeling mentally. because of the different body systems shutting down , like for instance the kidneys, the person has a shut down and the fluids block other systems in the body. i did talk to a few medical people about this and they seem to think that's how it goes. as for the sudden death people, hopefully the shock just takes care of that. just my opinion.

[jakob493]

I've got an idea of what happens at death, seeing my great grandpa slowly dying about 5 years ago. He started talking to an unseen relative that had been dead for years, and wanted us to pull up a chair for her. Thats basically all i can think of, but I'm just wondering, if its the spirit of a relative who just appeared to guide him after death or something like that, or has the spirit been there all along but they cant really see them until they are at that near death state.

[Justa]

I've been exposed to death a fair amount. One person fought it until the last minute, and then he just relaxed and said, "I'm ready now", and closed his eyes and that was it.

I think that it all depends on what your personal views of the afterlife are. If you believe that there is a "hell", then you might be a little hesitant to leave, for fear that you are going to spend the rest of eternity burning. However, if you believe that death is just the next step, you may just welcome it. Also if you have unfinished business here, you may put up more of a fight.

Young children seem to just let it happen, perhaps because they haven't been exposed to years of worrying about if they have sinned or not, or perhaps an angel comes to them and helps them cross over peacefully.

[peepers]

I was reading through the above posts and thought it would be good to refresh the topic, if anyone would care to add anything.... this time of year, many questions about death and dying arise....... and The Day of the Dead is just around the corner.....

Edited by peepers, 25 October 2007 - 10:15 PM.

[~*Jazzy*~]

I've watched people die peacefully and I've watched people die, fighting it every step of the way. I really dont have an answer to this question. I guess when I pass over, I'll come back and let y'all know what happens.

[meanderer]

On another site I belong to, someone's "signature" on his profile went something like:

"When I die, I want to die like my grandfather, in his sleep; not screaming and crying like the passengers in his back seat".

I just thought that was funny....

[erato]

This is a really intriguing question that I have often wondered about.

I really think that some people are aware that their time is near. Two of my reli's on separate occasions (grandmother and nephew) both asked to see people and say their good byes. My grandmother was 85 and in the 2 weeks before her death started asking for people to visit so that she could say goodbye. My nephew who was going abroad for heart surgery, asked to say his goodbyes before he went away as he might not see us when he got back. My mum I am not sure of as she went into a comma and slipped away as I stood there beside her.

I also know that some people have the ability of being able to tell if someone is close to their time. I have only been able to see this three times and no it wasn't as dramatic as in white noise 2 *lol* but it was freaky when I realized what it was all the same.

The first time was with my grandmother. I saw her a week before she passed away and I remembered thinking as we were leaving that I wouldn't see her alive again. Maybe it was just a sense of dread I dont know.. with my mum, i didn't recognize it as I thought she was just ill (diabetes) but when I looked at her she seemed to have a shiny (glossy) appearance ..

A couple of months after that I realized the significance of this glossy look when I saw one of my bosses with the same appearance. To me he looked blotchy as if I could see grey patches on his skin (even though he had no skin colorations-- does that make sense to anyone???) When i commented on how ill he looked I was told he had a stomach bug. Everyone else said he just looked dehydrated but he looked really odd to me.. a few weeks later he died of cancer.

Then around the same time, a secretary at work who had been ill for some time also looked the same way.. she was admitted to the hospital and the night we visited her, I just looked at her, saw the same signs and I thought that's it she is not going to make it.. the next morning we got the news that she had passed away..

I just hope that when my time comes I can 'see' or 'feel' the signs so that I can say proper goodbyes to all those that I hold dear to me you know?...


On another note, I have heard of two separate incidents where people screamed and yelled saying things like: "they're coming" or "they're here" or "Please dont let them take me" just moments before death. Maybe its like Justa says that these folks were concerned about what was waiting for them.. I think its a little exciting after a full life moving to the next step whatever that may be..

Just my 2c worth..