This is my first post here- I look forward to exploring the community! I found you guys because I have a new situation that I am searching for a way to deal with.
I moved into a new place in the early summer with my boyfriend. I didn't smudge even though I would regularly smudge the old place because this one feels cozy, like a home base or a nest. It is an older condo and we have low ceilings and close neighbors ; it is small and has a bit of history. I do not know of any deaths or events that occurred there.
I sense we have a "third roommate" or at the very least someone who visits, or a strong imprint of their energy. This energy is not malicious; if anything it is friendly. At its worst, it is neutral and perhaps a bit of a practical joker. I get the sense it is a "he", perhaps an older gentleman. When he pulls his mild pranks (hiding and then replacing a lighter, slamming the bathroom door while I'm in the tub) it doesn't make me feel uneasy. My cats are aware of him but again, do not seem skittish or angry. Our second bedroom has a bit of a vibe to it, but still not an especially negative one. Perhaps just a bit stronger of a vibe than the other rooms. Although to be fair, it is the room I use least and mostly for storage. The light switch doesn't turn off the lamp due to some flaw with the wiring so the door will drift closed on me sometimes when I go to turn off the light. I do have a pet (hedgehog) that lives in that room and from what I can tell he is not bothered.
I have been having some personal upheavals lately and would like to smudge myself and my home. I am only afraid of angering or upsetting our current guest. My intent would not be to banish him; he is free to come or go as he pleases, and I feel he feels the same about me. I feel that we have an agreement up to this point. But I still fear he might misread my intent.
I have been able to smudge myself outside of the home since moving in, but have hesitated this long. I believe that myself, my boyfriend, and my home could benefit. But I have never had this unique circumstance before. Any advice?
TL;DR: I want to smudge my home, but have a spirit living there that is either a friendly or neutral energy and don't wish to anger him.