One of my Residents (Patient)
Posted 25 May 2006 - 07:14 PM
It never seemed to matter what I was doing or if I was with another resident, Dorothy would always want me for one reason or another and sometimes she would yell out to me "Julia (mind you she could remember everything else, just never our correct names, even when we would try to correct her) Help Me!" Of course I would smile graciously and use up every bit of patients I had, to take care of her.
Now last week on mothers day, I was working on a very sore back, bad enough that I had to leave work and get treatment at the ER for Sciatica and my upper back muscle being pulled, and I had to take a whole week off work from this. But on Mothers Day before I left, the last thing that Dorothy said to me was "Why do you take such good care of me?" I told her why and that she, while sometimes could have me completely frazzled she also was a wonderful lady that I truely admired. I told her I had to leave for that day, knowing that I was in horrific pain, she said, "Julia, please don't leave me" I told her I would be back soon (not knowing I would be out for a week) and that Valerie was taking my place. Well, sadly she passed last friday while I was scheduled off by my doctors orders. I knew her health was failing, but everyone did not expect to her to pass as quickly as she did, I surely thought she would be there when I can back. She, thankfully, passed very quickly in her sleep at 10:21 a.m. Now we run a wonderful nursing home and have a waiting list for beds, so within 2 days we have a new resident in that suite.
So, now to sum up my story since I have written a novel here. I have been back at work for 3 days now since my injury, I was scheduled on the 300 hall today, where Dorothy (now Judiths') suite is. We were getting residents to the dining room for breakfast, when I was coming up by the suite. That's when I heard her, Dorothy, call out "Julia, Help Me!" I was just about ready to walk in the suite, not remembering Dorothy had passed, when it dawned on me.. I heard her voice so clear, that I had turned to my co-worker and said did you hear that. Tracey, started to chuckle, and told me I need to get more sleep, joking at me. Tracey did not hear it, but I sure as heck did, it was Dorothy so perfectly clear that every hair stood up on my arms. My director of nursing (DON) walked by us and asked why I was so wide eyed like I had seen a ghost, I told her what I had just experienced and then every hair on her arm raised up. Well, my DON knows about Dave's and my paranormal work, she said "Julie, that's just creepy, but I believe if Dorothy were to call to you, you have a way with all the residents."
Now, I am puzzled by why she said "Help Me", everyone said that she had been unresponsive that morning and passed peacefully in her sleep. I'm guessing and speculating, because that was one way she always got my attention. I was really taken back by all this today, because it was just something that I just absolutely don't think about at work, because my mind is so focused on my job. This has been a first for me on an encounter while at work, odd things do happen time to time, and everyone jokes to come get me to investigate, but this was a big first for me. Glad to think that she called, but still puzzled and hoping that she's okay, happy and in no pain on the other side, since she said help me.
Well, if you made it through reading my book here, thank you, I know it's alot, but I want to let everyone know how I had felt about this. Thanks, Julie
Posted 25 May 2006 - 07:59 PM
Posted 25 May 2006 - 10:47 PM
Posted 26 May 2006 - 02:53 PM
It's seems the more demanding are the closest to your hearts and I'm so sorry to hear about her passing while you were gone! My DH works in a similar facility. He told me after one of his favorite residents...a chronic call button pusher and always wanting him ...passed, her empty bed called the nurse station for two nights after she had gone. You can always look at Lestor's visit as him waiting to bring her home and I'm sure hearing her voice wasn't so much her needing help but just letting you know without a shadow of a doubt who it was.
Posted 06 June 2006 - 06:27 PM
i dont think you have to worry - i think she was paying you a visit and she knew that if she said what she normally said to you then you would know its was her.
Posted 07 June 2006 - 02:17 AM
Edited by Juniper, 07 June 2006 - 02:19 AM.
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