Posted 28 April 2004 - 12:33 PM
Posted 28 April 2004 - 12:39 PM
The only thing I can suggest is that you make sure you are very aware of your path before leaving the broom closet, as it were. It's important that you can educate your family on the truth of your religious practices. My family noticed when I was 14, and I was quite informationally challenged at the time so, for two years, they were positive I was doing animal sacrifices.
Posted 28 April 2004 - 12:42 PM
Posted 28 April 2004 - 10:56 PM
If you are under the age of 18, I wouldn't say anything until I was of legal age. As long as you live under your parents' roof, you need to abide by what they want you to do. I get this question a lot from teens and this is always my advice to them. It might not be what they want to hear, but it's good sound advice all the same. Wicca and Paganism will still be very much alive when you are old enough to decide for yourself what religion you want to practice, and at that point when you tell your parents, even if they aren't crazy about the idea, you can always fall back on the old "I'm an adult now and I'm old enough to make my own decisions."
In the meantime, there is always the possibility that something will come up and you will be forced to tell your parents. They might hear something from the parents of a friend who may have told their parents that you are studying witchcraft, they may find books or papers in your room, they could overhear you talking to someone about it. If any of these things happen, this page gives excellent advice about how to handle the situation.
As far as the rest of this website goes, in my opinion it's pretty much a waste of bandwidth. There is a LOT of misinformation in it, so if you read through the rest of the site, take whatever else besides the telling the parents thing is said with a grain of salt. However, I do agree wholeheartedly with the page they have on how to tell parents about the fact that you have chosen to be a witch.
Posted 29 April 2004 - 12:13 AM
So many teens (and even younger sometimes) ask this very same question. A sticky post should probably be at the head of this forum with links to pages on how to handle it. Provided those who had the question took the time to read it, it would cut down on a lot of threads. I run into this on every witch/Pagan message board I belong to.
Posted 29 April 2004 - 05:40 AM
I find too that by the time you're over 18, you know yourself a bit better, you know your parents a bit better, you know your chosen faith a bit better, and your parents are less likely to be considered rebelling against parental authority
Krafted with luv
Posted 29 April 2004 - 09:11 AM
Posted 29 April 2004 - 09:25 AM
All good points, Ana.
Also, if a teen risks an uprising in the family by bringing up the subject of witchcraft and then it DOES turn out to only be a passing thing, it runs the risk of tainting their credibility with their parents when or if they finally DO find what they are really looking for if that thing is different from the path their parents have chosen. If they wait until they are considered adults to bring up the subject, the parents are going to be less likely to bring up "you're not serious about this. This is just like when you were 16 and decided you wanted to be a witch."
Teens today seem to be far more articulate than when I was a teen, however they are still not old enough to have studied as much as they need to know to present their stance about something as deep as religion in a truly knowledgeable manner. IMO it just much better to wait to talk about religion, unless, of course, the parents are followers of the path in question.
Posted 29 April 2004 - 06:38 PM
Posted 29 April 2004 - 06:48 PM
and if you aren't sure how to tell your parents, just do like ana said to. leave a couple of books laying around. that's how my parents figured it out. and if they really want you to be happy, they'll respect you for it.
just hope the family doesn't start calling you "the witch" like mine does.
Posted 29 April 2004 - 06:53 PM
Posted 29 April 2004 - 06:55 PM
Posted 29 April 2004 - 06:56 PM
at least not yet.
oh goddess! they're going to exorcise me!
Posted 29 April 2004 - 07:04 PM
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