Okay, sorry... Rockhauler, if I may answer your question... Despite being one of the "great unwashed" who should be silent...
In 1998, Jennifer Krutila started a study where she asked members of The Spiritualist Church of Canada, various "house clearing" ghost-groups/investigators, generic (if one can use that term) psychics and the like about "why" we "should" clear homes... (something that the GHRS doesn't do... for various reasons.)
The answers she got from her cross-scetion of data from these groups was that the majority actually DID say that not all ghosts "should" or "want" to be moved along... and then, many did qualify that by saying "it's for the best" for these ghosts...
When she did ask about that, she was told that these folks (for the most part) knew that they were better off moved on to wherever... let's say "into the light".
How do these people know? Got me... Seems to me that the only "concrete" evidence of things "after death" would be difficult if not impossible to find out about without a certain type of experimentation and observation that would require one to die and stay dead for a while.
If we accept the theory that ghosts are indeed "survival of bodily death" of some sort, (again a theory based not on fact but on belief or hypothesis... and with so many alternative thoughts, I think we should all be wary of this...) I agree with you and Jennifer that indeed, maybe it's not our place to "push people along".
Very interesting indeed. I have read several studies on the topic over the year and it seems that the common thread tends to begin with the belief system of the one trying to lend aid.
Great response MJD and thanks for the input
I will elaborate a bit more on the studies in future posts. ;D
I'll be interested to see your final paper... Of course, if it is available for consumption by us cave-dwelling, unworthy, low-forhead, mouth-breathing folks unworthy to discuss such things.
Dont be so trite
I be happy to share my work with you when I complete it . It will be available online when completed and anyone can take a read if they care to do so .
My best friend was killed in a car crash. Her husband was murder a couple of yrs prior to that. I always wonder about her passing because it was so horrible. She was trapped in a burning car.She came to me in a dream and let me know that she was ok, however she let me know her husband hadn't made it. I'm am now wondering what happened to him, His death was tragic also, he was shot in a robbery. So does he not know that he is passed or did he have unfinished business? They left a young son. That would be enough to keep him from moving on. Why didn't he make it or did he ever? How can I know?
Wow , what a sad thing for a family to have to endure :'(. That poor child .
A common thread in my experiences throughout the years has been what I would call residual activity based death related to tragedy. What I find compelling about the tragedy you relate is that there was never any related phenomenon with the father but you actually saw the mother in a dream after the death. I had a related experience with actually smelling the perfume of a loved one after her death. I found it quite odd that the experience came shortly after the burial . I am not sure wether it was greif related or something a bit more unexplainable.
There is a line that we all will step to one day when the experience of losing a loved one or close friend hits close to home. It will happen or not. There is no controling what happens after death. Its one thing that none of us can control . Even the hardest skeptic /cynic will experience death in one form or another at some point in his or her life . Actually we all will experience it at least once in our lives even if its our own demise
Thanks for relating your experience to us ,
Im still interested in getting some feedback from one who actually does this , if you will share your experience with us here.